Well it's been a good month since I've posted a new blog, so here we go! I know I'm seriously slacking...
For those of you who like a good read or may have actually read Love Unscripted about the hot movie star who falls in love with the small town bar owner, there is a part 2! Love Unrehearsed was awesome. Very good follow up to the first book and still a page turner.. Read them both if you haven't. I haven't searched for any other good reads lately, so I figured I might as well read 50 Shades again.. And it's just as good the 3rd time. :) If Ian Somerhalder isn't Christian Grey when the movie comes out, I may cry.
As you may have noticed, my family adopted a little elf named Bernard! He's pretty entertaining. If anyone has any fun suggestions for him, I will gladly use them. It gets kind of hard to come up with new pictures for him daily. Another reason I am seriously slacking in pictures too.
Ok.. On to more exciting things.. Like the work Christmas party! Finding a date for this stinking thing was ridiculous. Everyone in the office is in a relationship but me. And I mean EVERYONE! No exaggeration! So I asked a boy from some earlier blog posts if he was interested in going. He says sure. Seemed like a plan. Then I get a text talking about getting drunk and making "bad decisions". Listen here sir, you didn't have to throw that out there. We all know what kind of shenanigans happen when guys and girls get drunk together. Had this boy and I previously made some "bad decisions"? Perhaps. Were the bad decisions in the past fun enough to repeat? Nah... But still you don't just say that! If it happens, it happens, but way to put pressure on it! Ugh. Not happening sir. The text from him was followed up by an "actually another girl in the office is going alone too so you don't have to go text". Bam! Don't be a douche or you don't have a chance, ass..
So I go buy new shiny black pants and a fun pink shirt and off to the party I go with another girl in the office and her boyfriend. For our parties, we are always lucky enough to have a bartender at whichever house the party is at. And wow can we drink! After some mingling, dinner and drinking it was out to the party bus! Yes, we get a party bus to go out to the bars. Be jealous. :) Then we went to Broad Ripple. We started at Red Room. Now I've never been there but the DJ was terrible and when we requested fun songs since there were all of 25 people in the bar, he ignores us. Whatever. One drink there and we were out! But not before someone decided to walk across the bar.. on their hands.. Yes, we were those people. And whoever decided to put stairs going down out of a bar was an idiot. Next up, Brothers! At this point, most of us are prettty drunk. Put a pitcher of beer in front of us with no cups, we drink from the pitcher. While there, several people took it upon themselves to look for a boy for me. We came up empty handed but it was fun watching the boss's try and find me a date! Several rounds and shots later, someone puked on the table... and no one noticed! And someone else disappeared. It's a miracle we all showed up to work on Monday. There was some pole dancing on the bus on the way home and the worst hangover ever the next day. Was your work Christmas party better than that? Doubt it. :)
Next up, New Years! I'm taking applications for a date for that as I have an extra ticket to the NYE party downtown! Maybe this go around I will actually find a date! Otherwise, whatever.. I'm pretty fun all on my own. Plus who knows who I could meet there ;)
Tuesday, December 18, 2012
Monday, November 5, 2012
I Could Not Ask For More!
Well this might be the most nontraditional blog post I do.. Since everyone has decided to fill up my newsfeed with their "Days of Thanks", I figured this would be the easiest thing to do. Time to just list everything and be done with it. Plus it makes you think if you do it all at once and you can't cheat and use the same thing twice! I'm sure someone will get away with being thankful for their family on Day 1 and Day 22! ;) Not that being thankful for family twice is a bad thing. Plus I'm sure there are some single girl things in here somewhere!
I am thankful for....
1. My family! They are crazy for sure but we are more functional than most families and a little more dysfunctional than those picture perfect ones. Mom and I talk everyday and dad and I still hang out together when I'm home even if it's just hanging out in the garage while he changes my oil. Bub and I have a surprisingly good relationship. And I think sis and I have actually come a long way. :) I am one lucky girl.
2. Having a job! With this terrible economy, a lot of people have trouble finding jobs. Let alone a job that actually uses their degree. I get to do that and got a little promotion. I may complain about work some days but I know I'm lucky to get up and have one to go to.
3. My education! No matter how much I wish Sallie Mae and all her minions didn't exist, I have a degree. I loved school and always miss the sleeping in until noon :) People who say high school is the best years of your life are crazy and didn't get the opportunity to go to college because that's where it's at!
4. My car! When my old car decided to start falling apart a little at a time, I panicked about how the heck I was going to afford a new one. But thanks to my strategic bill planning and budgeting, I didn't have to settle for the worst thing on the lot. I got an SUV with 4wd! It might be a soccer mom car (or moto mom in training as I like to call it) and not brand new, but I love it. It gets me from A to B and has heat, ac and windows that work. That was quite the upgrade!
5. My friends! I have some amazing friends. Hands down the greatest! When you grow up you realize how important it is to keep the people around who don't cause drama and lift you up instead of bringing you down (unless you need to be brought back to reality). Girls night dinners, midnight Twilight showings or lunch dates, I am surrounded by some pretty awesome women.
6. My apartment! I love it (minus the price some days) but I have my own apartment. No roommate, mom and dad don't pay for it, and I can even afford cable and internet without having to steal it off the neighbors. :) Other than wanting to upgrade the furniture, I like all my decorations and the fact that it feels home-y. Mom and dad's will always be home, but my apartment is my mess, my decorations and has my remote- which I don't have to share.
7. Mine (and my family's) health! Working in personal injury, you see how fast someone's life can change and it's never good. Car accidents, injuries at work and surgery that goes bad are all I see everyday and it makes you grateful that it hasn't happened to you or someone you love. One back injury at work and you hear about someone losing their home since they live paycheck to paycheck and aren't getting a full one while injured. One doctor's mistake and your family is suddenly without you. Being surrounded by that makes you realize how lucky you are.
8. Access to healthcare! Kind of goes along with #7, but if there's ever an issue, dad has amazing insurance which I have used and abused this year since I get kicked off at 26. When I have to sign up for work's plan, it might not be great but it is still offered. I just want to get as healthy as possible before I get kicked off! Hence the annoying allergy testing and shots..
9. Where I live! I love where I decided to move and can't ever see myself moving back to the cornfields. They are nice to visit but there's no way I could deal with a 20 minute drive just to Walmart or 45 minute drive to get to work. No thanks! Fishers is amazing. There is always something going on, great schools, and yes, its a little uppity. I'm not afraid to live here alone and I'm pretty sure I could leave my car unlocked for weeks and no one would steal my Jason Aldean cd out of it. :) Plus it probably helps that a police car parks in the carport right under my stairs..
10. My family's financial well being! Nope, we aren't millionaires.. Not even close. But my parent's have done pretty well for themselves. My brother, sister and I are basically spoiled- and now we are all over 18. Growing up, I've been to Disney World 5 times, was never told no for any school thing I wanted money for and got a car at 16. Now I'm old and Sallie Mae beckons so I'm still spoiled because I don't pay Verizon for my phone or State Farm for my car insurance. When my car needed new rotors, I didn't pay for them. Yes, I'm spoiled for sure. But I know I am lucky that my parents can do this.
11. Never going hungry! My parents house was always full of food. Grandma spends twice the amount on food as I do and she lives alone too. If you open my freezer right now, something unhealthy will probably fall out at you. Ten uninvited people could show up at my door right now and I could feed them all dinner and dessert. There are kids who only get 1 meal a day at school and from what I hear, that's turning into an iffy subject. My version of being hungry is my stomach growling at 10am even though I just had a bagel at 8am. My $50 a week grocery bill is a luxury.
12. Grandma! If you see any of my posts on FB, you know the woman has flipped a switch and has driven me crazy from time to time. But, I have a grandma! And she makes up for the fact that I have other grandparents who will tell you I went to IU and not ISU and think I'm still dating a guy I broke up with 2 1/2 yrs ago. She's crazy but she is around and does random things like send me free car wash coupons.
13. Music! Mostly country.. Getting ready in the morning? Pandora.. Need something to listen to at work? Turn on some T. Swift.. In the car? Of course that means it's time for my own concert. My purse, Michael, appreciates his serenades.. A song can bring back any memory. Patsy Cline's Crazy and I think of grandpa every time. Spice Girls and I think of my best friend. Hawthorne Heights and I think of going to Bogarts in high school and a creeper tapping on my window and Brittany telling me to "Run the red light!". All good stuff!
14. Past relationships! They are only a few of them.. 2 mainly.. But when they were each like 2 years, you learn a lot! Some days I wish I would have gone through college without a relationship and other days I'm glad I had them because you learn so much about who you are in a relationship and what not to do and what not to put up with. Be mean to me while you are drunk? See ya! Open my door and tell me I'm pretty? You can stay! ;)
15. Being single! This means I can be thankful for single guys! Nope, I'm not the biggest fan of being single. But, I know so much more about myself after being without a relationship for over 2 yrs. I might not be a completely different person, but 2 years ago I would never go out to a bar alone to meet some friends. Heck I wouldn't drink a beer 3 years ago. I've met a lot of great guys, some complete duds and ones who have shown me it's ok to be myself. So what that I'm a girl and like motocross and cars and still want to be taken out and get to wear a little black dress? It's not that confusing.. It's actually pretty awesome and you're dumb if you think it isn't. :)
16. Peppermint Stick ice cream, Car and Driver and the UC Bearcats! Yes this is more than 1 thing, but they are important things! Dad and I still bicker over who gets the ice cream and when I lived at home I would always steal the Car and Driver since I usually got to the mail first. Ever since I was old enough to know what UC was and that I should like them, you could typically find Dad, Grandpa and I yelling at the TV together. The year K-Mart got injured in the Conference USA Tourney, there may have been tears. The year Huggs got booted out, there were Bob Huggins for president bumper stickers!
17. Cell phones (or any phone)! My connection to the world! When you live 1 1/2 hours from family, how else do you connect with them?! Mom and I talk every day. I usually get to talk to dad and bub sometime in there too. Being on the phone all day with potential clients is my job. Ridiculous how much I need the phone in one day!
18. My Kindle! I use it a ton for being on the internet and listening to music, but I don't think I've ever read so much. Of course I had to read all these ridiculous love stories that will never happen to anyone, but whatever. It's a fantasyland for a day or two. Reading is always good! Even if it is 50 Shades trash that is awesome!
19. Smokey! He was the cutest puppy and now he's mostly a big, lazy bum when I'm home. But he's so pretty! Watching him play with his tennis ball alone is pretty funny stuff and he really likes people, especially the ones with food! His face puts a smile on my face! But that's probably because he never chewed up my couch, my baseboards or dug up my plants! :)
20. Reconnecting with people! Over the last year I have gotten to see and reconnect with more people from college. Living at home, I would have never had that chance. No one picks to get up and move to Manchester. But, Indy.. there are people there! Fun people to spend time with and step outside of your comfort zone with. I'm thankful for Steak n' Shake at 3am and $80 worth of cab rides (which luckily I didn't have to pay for :) ) to come home and go get my car again.
21. Sweatpants/yoga pants! As a single lady, I get the pleasure of coming home to an empty apartment and have no one to look hot for after 5:30pm (unless by some miracle I have a date!.). I'm home for 5 minutes and I already have on my comfy clothes and am probably already turning on Nextflix. Future boyfriend, if you are reading this, I promise to wear yoga pants more than sweatpants. Your welcome...
22. TV! Yep, maybe a little sad but I have my shows and for the hour or so they are on, I get to forget about work or whatever other dumb thing is bothering me. Vampire Diaries, Big Bang Theory, Nashville, Hart of Dixie, Awkward, Teen Mom, The Moto.. Love them all. TV is free and you usually get a laugh or lesson out of it. Maybe tv rots your brain, but a couple good shows and I'm a happy girl!
I am thankful for....
1. My family! They are crazy for sure but we are more functional than most families and a little more dysfunctional than those picture perfect ones. Mom and I talk everyday and dad and I still hang out together when I'm home even if it's just hanging out in the garage while he changes my oil. Bub and I have a surprisingly good relationship. And I think sis and I have actually come a long way. :) I am one lucky girl.
2. Having a job! With this terrible economy, a lot of people have trouble finding jobs. Let alone a job that actually uses their degree. I get to do that and got a little promotion. I may complain about work some days but I know I'm lucky to get up and have one to go to.
3. My education! No matter how much I wish Sallie Mae and all her minions didn't exist, I have a degree. I loved school and always miss the sleeping in until noon :) People who say high school is the best years of your life are crazy and didn't get the opportunity to go to college because that's where it's at!
4. My car! When my old car decided to start falling apart a little at a time, I panicked about how the heck I was going to afford a new one. But thanks to my strategic bill planning and budgeting, I didn't have to settle for the worst thing on the lot. I got an SUV with 4wd! It might be a soccer mom car (or moto mom in training as I like to call it) and not brand new, but I love it. It gets me from A to B and has heat, ac and windows that work. That was quite the upgrade!
5. My friends! I have some amazing friends. Hands down the greatest! When you grow up you realize how important it is to keep the people around who don't cause drama and lift you up instead of bringing you down (unless you need to be brought back to reality). Girls night dinners, midnight Twilight showings or lunch dates, I am surrounded by some pretty awesome women.
6. My apartment! I love it (minus the price some days) but I have my own apartment. No roommate, mom and dad don't pay for it, and I can even afford cable and internet without having to steal it off the neighbors. :) Other than wanting to upgrade the furniture, I like all my decorations and the fact that it feels home-y. Mom and dad's will always be home, but my apartment is my mess, my decorations and has my remote- which I don't have to share.
7. Mine (and my family's) health! Working in personal injury, you see how fast someone's life can change and it's never good. Car accidents, injuries at work and surgery that goes bad are all I see everyday and it makes you grateful that it hasn't happened to you or someone you love. One back injury at work and you hear about someone losing their home since they live paycheck to paycheck and aren't getting a full one while injured. One doctor's mistake and your family is suddenly without you. Being surrounded by that makes you realize how lucky you are.
8. Access to healthcare! Kind of goes along with #7, but if there's ever an issue, dad has amazing insurance which I have used and abused this year since I get kicked off at 26. When I have to sign up for work's plan, it might not be great but it is still offered. I just want to get as healthy as possible before I get kicked off! Hence the annoying allergy testing and shots..
9. Where I live! I love where I decided to move and can't ever see myself moving back to the cornfields. They are nice to visit but there's no way I could deal with a 20 minute drive just to Walmart or 45 minute drive to get to work. No thanks! Fishers is amazing. There is always something going on, great schools, and yes, its a little uppity. I'm not afraid to live here alone and I'm pretty sure I could leave my car unlocked for weeks and no one would steal my Jason Aldean cd out of it. :) Plus it probably helps that a police car parks in the carport right under my stairs..
10. My family's financial well being! Nope, we aren't millionaires.. Not even close. But my parent's have done pretty well for themselves. My brother, sister and I are basically spoiled- and now we are all over 18. Growing up, I've been to Disney World 5 times, was never told no for any school thing I wanted money for and got a car at 16. Now I'm old and Sallie Mae beckons so I'm still spoiled because I don't pay Verizon for my phone or State Farm for my car insurance. When my car needed new rotors, I didn't pay for them. Yes, I'm spoiled for sure. But I know I am lucky that my parents can do this.
11. Never going hungry! My parents house was always full of food. Grandma spends twice the amount on food as I do and she lives alone too. If you open my freezer right now, something unhealthy will probably fall out at you. Ten uninvited people could show up at my door right now and I could feed them all dinner and dessert. There are kids who only get 1 meal a day at school and from what I hear, that's turning into an iffy subject. My version of being hungry is my stomach growling at 10am even though I just had a bagel at 8am. My $50 a week grocery bill is a luxury.
12. Grandma! If you see any of my posts on FB, you know the woman has flipped a switch and has driven me crazy from time to time. But, I have a grandma! And she makes up for the fact that I have other grandparents who will tell you I went to IU and not ISU and think I'm still dating a guy I broke up with 2 1/2 yrs ago. She's crazy but she is around and does random things like send me free car wash coupons.
13. Music! Mostly country.. Getting ready in the morning? Pandora.. Need something to listen to at work? Turn on some T. Swift.. In the car? Of course that means it's time for my own concert. My purse, Michael, appreciates his serenades.. A song can bring back any memory. Patsy Cline's Crazy and I think of grandpa every time. Spice Girls and I think of my best friend. Hawthorne Heights and I think of going to Bogarts in high school and a creeper tapping on my window and Brittany telling me to "Run the red light!". All good stuff!
14. Past relationships! They are only a few of them.. 2 mainly.. But when they were each like 2 years, you learn a lot! Some days I wish I would have gone through college without a relationship and other days I'm glad I had them because you learn so much about who you are in a relationship and what not to do and what not to put up with. Be mean to me while you are drunk? See ya! Open my door and tell me I'm pretty? You can stay! ;)
15. Being single! This means I can be thankful for single guys! Nope, I'm not the biggest fan of being single. But, I know so much more about myself after being without a relationship for over 2 yrs. I might not be a completely different person, but 2 years ago I would never go out to a bar alone to meet some friends. Heck I wouldn't drink a beer 3 years ago. I've met a lot of great guys, some complete duds and ones who have shown me it's ok to be myself. So what that I'm a girl and like motocross and cars and still want to be taken out and get to wear a little black dress? It's not that confusing.. It's actually pretty awesome and you're dumb if you think it isn't. :)
16. Peppermint Stick ice cream, Car and Driver and the UC Bearcats! Yes this is more than 1 thing, but they are important things! Dad and I still bicker over who gets the ice cream and when I lived at home I would always steal the Car and Driver since I usually got to the mail first. Ever since I was old enough to know what UC was and that I should like them, you could typically find Dad, Grandpa and I yelling at the TV together. The year K-Mart got injured in the Conference USA Tourney, there may have been tears. The year Huggs got booted out, there were Bob Huggins for president bumper stickers!
17. Cell phones (or any phone)! My connection to the world! When you live 1 1/2 hours from family, how else do you connect with them?! Mom and I talk every day. I usually get to talk to dad and bub sometime in there too. Being on the phone all day with potential clients is my job. Ridiculous how much I need the phone in one day!
18. My Kindle! I use it a ton for being on the internet and listening to music, but I don't think I've ever read so much. Of course I had to read all these ridiculous love stories that will never happen to anyone, but whatever. It's a fantasyland for a day or two. Reading is always good! Even if it is 50 Shades trash that is awesome!
19. Smokey! He was the cutest puppy and now he's mostly a big, lazy bum when I'm home. But he's so pretty! Watching him play with his tennis ball alone is pretty funny stuff and he really likes people, especially the ones with food! His face puts a smile on my face! But that's probably because he never chewed up my couch, my baseboards or dug up my plants! :)
20. Reconnecting with people! Over the last year I have gotten to see and reconnect with more people from college. Living at home, I would have never had that chance. No one picks to get up and move to Manchester. But, Indy.. there are people there! Fun people to spend time with and step outside of your comfort zone with. I'm thankful for Steak n' Shake at 3am and $80 worth of cab rides (which luckily I didn't have to pay for :) ) to come home and go get my car again.
21. Sweatpants/yoga pants! As a single lady, I get the pleasure of coming home to an empty apartment and have no one to look hot for after 5:30pm (unless by some miracle I have a date!.). I'm home for 5 minutes and I already have on my comfy clothes and am probably already turning on Nextflix. Future boyfriend, if you are reading this, I promise to wear yoga pants more than sweatpants. Your welcome...
22. TV! Yep, maybe a little sad but I have my shows and for the hour or so they are on, I get to forget about work or whatever other dumb thing is bothering me. Vampire Diaries, Big Bang Theory, Nashville, Hart of Dixie, Awkward, Teen Mom, The Moto.. Love them all. TV is free and you usually get a laugh or lesson out of it. Maybe tv rots your brain, but a couple good shows and I'm a happy girl!
Wednesday, October 31, 2012
The Mysterious Spark
Happy Halloween! (A few days late for some of you readers no doubt!)
Clearly I have been slacking on the blog writing but it's hard when there are some things you don't want people to read about as they are happening and life in general happens. Blog writing takes a bit of time (unless you want to make zero sense and have typos galore which I'm sure I still do). Some of the lack of time has come from a little promotion at work! It's exciting and I like what I'm doing much more than what I had been doing before. It also comes with a little working late which is good and bad. I have the time to do it but do I really want to be at work? Ehhh.. But when you like what you are doing, it's less terrible than it sounds! Not hating your job is half the battle!
Reading has really been slacking. Since it's getting cold though and all I want to do is hibernate with my sweat pants and a blanket, I'm sure I will be reading again soon. I can however tell you that Netflix might be the best $8 I spend a month. They might not have the most up to date stuff but the app is on my kindle, I can watch it through the wii at my apartment and my brother watches it at home on his Xbox. Pretty much a success. I already loved Vampire Diaries and Hart of Dixie (which I watched every episode of before the new seasons started this month), but my new love is Friday Night Lights. How did I not watch it when it was actually on? I couldn't sit down and watch 1 or 2 episodes at a time. I had to watch like 4 or spend a whole Saturday on the couch watching like a whole season. Addiction. Watch it if you haven't. Ladies, I have a new found respect for football pants and any scene shot in a weight room.
Ok, back to the whole reason I started this blog... being a single girl. Seriously sometimes I feel like such a b*tch. Everyone can tell you not to feel that way, but it happens and here is why: I really don't think it's possible for a guy and girl to be friends. I think if I ever saw a relationship where a guy and girl were just friends and no one EVER had feelings for the other, it would be like seeing a unicorn and then when you took a picture of that unicorn to show to your family and friends, it would be like a ghost and not show up in the photo. Feelings complicate everything. Especially when you don't have the same ones. You're going along having a good time and bam! Pump the breaks! Stuff gets strange and there are awkward conversations that have to happen and you want to die. Well maybe not die, but hide under a rock at least. Why is it such a terrible feeling to not have the same feelings as someone else?! It's not like anyone did anything wrong to have or not have the same feelings, yet it totally feels like it. Frustration. And at some point this should be easy to stop but it's like a train wreck. You can't look away and you can't stop it. Warning signs ladies: hugs that last a little too long, excessive touching (arm, leg, lower back), and him actually texting you first. If you aren't interested, nix it or be honest about your feelings before it goes on too long and you feel like a jerk and a half!
Now, how you know you don't have that feeling... You can try and convince yourself it could maybe work out and he is super nice and everything you should want to date, but if that feeling isn't there, it's not going to be there. This is something I apparently have a hard time remembering. And that is a very important point! What you should want and what you really want are usually 2 totally different things. The terrible thing is once you've felt the "spark" it's hard to convince yourself that it exists when it doesn't. Everyone says once you've met someone "You will know". And I really believe that. I think you have that feeling with every important relationship you will have. That person may not end up being "the one" but they sure do end up being important. With every serious relationship I've had (and I know there are only a couple of them), I was so excited to see him. Butterflies, that electric feeling when you sit next to them, and instantly being attracted to them. None of those things have happened in a long time.. I'm talking YEARS. That's an issue. Countless dates, a few month long "hang outs" here and there and nada. How many people can you really have that kind of connection with?! Is there some kind of general rule where it only comes along every so many years?! I know there is some grand plan I know nothing about and everything happens when it is supposed to. But I want the spark back! :)
P.S. Spark makes me think of T. Swift (Sparks Fly). Her new cd is A.M.A.Z.I.N.G. So is Jason Aldean's for that matter. Go get them both!
Clearly I have been slacking on the blog writing but it's hard when there are some things you don't want people to read about as they are happening and life in general happens. Blog writing takes a bit of time (unless you want to make zero sense and have typos galore which I'm sure I still do). Some of the lack of time has come from a little promotion at work! It's exciting and I like what I'm doing much more than what I had been doing before. It also comes with a little working late which is good and bad. I have the time to do it but do I really want to be at work? Ehhh.. But when you like what you are doing, it's less terrible than it sounds! Not hating your job is half the battle!
Reading has really been slacking. Since it's getting cold though and all I want to do is hibernate with my sweat pants and a blanket, I'm sure I will be reading again soon. I can however tell you that Netflix might be the best $8 I spend a month. They might not have the most up to date stuff but the app is on my kindle, I can watch it through the wii at my apartment and my brother watches it at home on his Xbox. Pretty much a success. I already loved Vampire Diaries and Hart of Dixie (which I watched every episode of before the new seasons started this month), but my new love is Friday Night Lights. How did I not watch it when it was actually on? I couldn't sit down and watch 1 or 2 episodes at a time. I had to watch like 4 or spend a whole Saturday on the couch watching like a whole season. Addiction. Watch it if you haven't. Ladies, I have a new found respect for football pants and any scene shot in a weight room.
Ok, back to the whole reason I started this blog... being a single girl. Seriously sometimes I feel like such a b*tch. Everyone can tell you not to feel that way, but it happens and here is why: I really don't think it's possible for a guy and girl to be friends. I think if I ever saw a relationship where a guy and girl were just friends and no one EVER had feelings for the other, it would be like seeing a unicorn and then when you took a picture of that unicorn to show to your family and friends, it would be like a ghost and not show up in the photo. Feelings complicate everything. Especially when you don't have the same ones. You're going along having a good time and bam! Pump the breaks! Stuff gets strange and there are awkward conversations that have to happen and you want to die. Well maybe not die, but hide under a rock at least. Why is it such a terrible feeling to not have the same feelings as someone else?! It's not like anyone did anything wrong to have or not have the same feelings, yet it totally feels like it. Frustration. And at some point this should be easy to stop but it's like a train wreck. You can't look away and you can't stop it. Warning signs ladies: hugs that last a little too long, excessive touching (arm, leg, lower back), and him actually texting you first. If you aren't interested, nix it or be honest about your feelings before it goes on too long and you feel like a jerk and a half!
Now, how you know you don't have that feeling... You can try and convince yourself it could maybe work out and he is super nice and everything you should want to date, but if that feeling isn't there, it's not going to be there. This is something I apparently have a hard time remembering. And that is a very important point! What you should want and what you really want are usually 2 totally different things. The terrible thing is once you've felt the "spark" it's hard to convince yourself that it exists when it doesn't. Everyone says once you've met someone "You will know". And I really believe that. I think you have that feeling with every important relationship you will have. That person may not end up being "the one" but they sure do end up being important. With every serious relationship I've had (and I know there are only a couple of them), I was so excited to see him. Butterflies, that electric feeling when you sit next to them, and instantly being attracted to them. None of those things have happened in a long time.. I'm talking YEARS. That's an issue. Countless dates, a few month long "hang outs" here and there and nada. How many people can you really have that kind of connection with?! Is there some kind of general rule where it only comes along every so many years?! I know there is some grand plan I know nothing about and everything happens when it is supposed to. But I want the spark back! :)
P.S. Spark makes me think of T. Swift (Sparks Fly). Her new cd is A.M.A.Z.I.N.G. So is Jason Aldean's for that matter. Go get them both!
Wednesday, September 12, 2012
The Ex Factor
Hello! Welcome back! Is it Friday yet??? This week has been dragging a bit. But tonight I did get to have dinner with some fabulous ladies who I don't get to see often enough. It's so good to know you have such amazing women in your life. Especially ladies who are so classy but can talk about 50 Shades in a way that would make a sailor blush. ;)
I've been totally slacking on the reading this week. I'm reading the second part of the Thoughtless series which is Effortless. But this last week I remembered how much I liked Netflix. Of course Vampire Diaries was listed. All 44 or so episodes. Yes, I've watched them all before and still have some on my DVR, but it's so much better when you can watch them all back to back and not have to skip through commercials which I usually forget to do anyway. Ian Somerhalder would make an awesome Christian Grey (regardless of what other ladies at dinner may think)! Next week, I'll tell you how Effortless is. So far, so good.
On to the title of the post this week: The Ex Factor. So you're dating someone for say 2 1/2 years. It suddenly becomes clear that where you expect the relationship to go and where he sees it going are no where near the same place. After a stressful weekend full of yet another drunken argument, you break up with him. But, the minute you do it, you are like "Oh, crap.". Welcome to my life 2 1/2 yrs ago. After a 2 1/2 year relationship obviously things like marriage, kids and the road we planned to get there were discussed. In my head Happily Ever After was a place that wasn't too far away. If I was a betting woman (which I now am, but only roulette!) I would have bet I'd beat most of my friends down the aisle. Then bam! Reality. At this point, I hadn't been single since I was like 18. I was now 23 and alone with plans to move to a new city. A city far too close to the ex. Quite the pickle I put myself in. After the break up, the ex and I never really stopped talking, especially once I moved. There was always talk of maybe getting back together or my favorite "seeing how it goes". Of course the whole time we were still in communication other things were going on that really should have stopped the second we broke up. Slumber parties don't help anyone get over anything. There is no closure because things just continued as they were before the break up. You can't go to dinner and then spend the night with an ex without slipping right back into the feeling of a relationship (and if you can, more power to ya! But what about the other person?). It was just too much so we stopped talking altogether. Best decision ever. Granted this back and forth talking and then not talking for a few months went back and forth several times- seriously for like 2 years.
Continuing to keep an ex in your life is a horrible idea. Maybe it works for some people but in my case, it was dumb. Was it not enough that I spent so much time with this person in the relationship but now I was continuing to give him years of my life without even paying attention to it? With no sort of commitment? And trying to date with this going on? Ugh. Makes you feel like a horrible person because somewhere, deep down I'm pretty sure I was just waiting for the next time the ex and I would talk. It sounds ridiculous but this is what you get yourself into when you don't just cut things off. And it's really not fair to the person you attempt to date. You aren't fully in whatever relationship is building and the other person is, completely oblivious to the random communication with the ex. Not nice. But one day, the light bulb went off. Somehow it finally clicked that this was complete crap and I deserved better. Someone who wouldn't just be around during the week and disappear on the weekend. And someone who could have a grown up relationship. If I wasn't getting that before when we broke up, I clearly wasn't going to get it now.
Right now, we haven't talked in months. I wish him nothing but the best, but I know he was brought into my life and must have stuck around forever to teach me something. Note to self: Never again. I know some people have great relationships with exes. But when you know that's not the path you and your ex could take, I think it's best to just cut it off altogether. You know how people always say "I must have been drunk that entire relationship."? Well I say I must have been drunk the entire post relationship. But lesson learned!
Side note: I will be going home this weekend for my sister's birthday. If anyone has any last minute suggestions for what to get a 20 yr old, please let me know! :) Leave it to me to procrastinate a bit.
Have a great end of the week/weekend everyone!
I've been totally slacking on the reading this week. I'm reading the second part of the Thoughtless series which is Effortless. But this last week I remembered how much I liked Netflix. Of course Vampire Diaries was listed. All 44 or so episodes. Yes, I've watched them all before and still have some on my DVR, but it's so much better when you can watch them all back to back and not have to skip through commercials which I usually forget to do anyway. Ian Somerhalder would make an awesome Christian Grey (regardless of what other ladies at dinner may think)! Next week, I'll tell you how Effortless is. So far, so good.
On to the title of the post this week: The Ex Factor. So you're dating someone for say 2 1/2 years. It suddenly becomes clear that where you expect the relationship to go and where he sees it going are no where near the same place. After a stressful weekend full of yet another drunken argument, you break up with him. But, the minute you do it, you are like "Oh, crap.". Welcome to my life 2 1/2 yrs ago. After a 2 1/2 year relationship obviously things like marriage, kids and the road we planned to get there were discussed. In my head Happily Ever After was a place that wasn't too far away. If I was a betting woman (which I now am, but only roulette!) I would have bet I'd beat most of my friends down the aisle. Then bam! Reality. At this point, I hadn't been single since I was like 18. I was now 23 and alone with plans to move to a new city. A city far too close to the ex. Quite the pickle I put myself in. After the break up, the ex and I never really stopped talking, especially once I moved. There was always talk of maybe getting back together or my favorite "seeing how it goes". Of course the whole time we were still in communication other things were going on that really should have stopped the second we broke up. Slumber parties don't help anyone get over anything. There is no closure because things just continued as they were before the break up. You can't go to dinner and then spend the night with an ex without slipping right back into the feeling of a relationship (and if you can, more power to ya! But what about the other person?). It was just too much so we stopped talking altogether. Best decision ever. Granted this back and forth talking and then not talking for a few months went back and forth several times- seriously for like 2 years.
Continuing to keep an ex in your life is a horrible idea. Maybe it works for some people but in my case, it was dumb. Was it not enough that I spent so much time with this person in the relationship but now I was continuing to give him years of my life without even paying attention to it? With no sort of commitment? And trying to date with this going on? Ugh. Makes you feel like a horrible person because somewhere, deep down I'm pretty sure I was just waiting for the next time the ex and I would talk. It sounds ridiculous but this is what you get yourself into when you don't just cut things off. And it's really not fair to the person you attempt to date. You aren't fully in whatever relationship is building and the other person is, completely oblivious to the random communication with the ex. Not nice. But one day, the light bulb went off. Somehow it finally clicked that this was complete crap and I deserved better. Someone who wouldn't just be around during the week and disappear on the weekend. And someone who could have a grown up relationship. If I wasn't getting that before when we broke up, I clearly wasn't going to get it now.
Right now, we haven't talked in months. I wish him nothing but the best, but I know he was brought into my life and must have stuck around forever to teach me something. Note to self: Never again. I know some people have great relationships with exes. But when you know that's not the path you and your ex could take, I think it's best to just cut it off altogether. You know how people always say "I must have been drunk that entire relationship."? Well I say I must have been drunk the entire post relationship. But lesson learned!
Side note: I will be going home this weekend for my sister's birthday. If anyone has any last minute suggestions for what to get a 20 yr old, please let me know! :) Leave it to me to procrastinate a bit.
Have a great end of the week/weekend everyone!
Monday, September 3, 2012
Getting Married Last Lowers Your Chances of Getting Divorced First
Happy Labor Day Weekend! I hope you all got to stay in one place longer than I did. Talk about a busy weekend! No, I didn't move back home. I got a few texts and messages asking about that. I must just really like the awesomeness of 74. Lately, life has been pretty boring. When you stop hanging out with boys who are nothing but trouble, life seems a little less exciting. But, that is totally fine with me.
So the new book this week was Thoughtless by S.C. Stephens. A.M.A.Z.I.N.G. Girl moves across the country with her hot, Australian boyfriend. They move in with his friend, who he knew growing up. This friend just happens to be the local rock star who I imagine looks like a hotter version of Paul Walker (if that's possible). Australian boyfriend has to go out of town for his internship for 2 months. Of course that leaves college girl and rock star home alone. I'm sure you can imagine what happens there. Such a good book. I'm reading the second part to this, Effortless. It's not 50 Shades, but it's pretty dang close.. Minus the red room of pain of course. :)
Alright, I guess I should explain my need to traipse up and down 74 this weekend like it was my job. Went home Friday night for the 3 day weekend, of course. Well, earlier in the week, grandma decided she just had to buy a new car. The need for one was lacking, but apparently once your car has 80,000 miles on it, it is a death trap. (In which case, most people I know should be buying new cars). After talking to grandma about what she wanted, we decided to go see my friend who sells the exact type of car she wanted. So grandma and I made the trip back to Indy Saturday morning. Oh Lord did I feel bad for Pat. There was a car I thought grandma would love. We show it to her, she opens the door, shuts it and says "That interior is disgusting". It was tan! Ugh! On to the next car or two. Still nothing. Thank the lord a trade came in a few days before we got there that wasn't out on the lot. Almost exactly what she wanted minus the heated leather seats she had to have for her "old bones". I swear her doctor told her she needed them and probably gave her the name of his car salesman friend. She gets in the car for a test drive and says the interior was morbid or something like that since it was grey. So no tan, but grey is dreary? Alrighty then. Two test drives later, we have a winner! A 2012 with like 1500 miles on it! Success! Hard part done! So we are sitting there talking to Pat while they are filling out paperwork and what not, and guess what comes out of grandma's mouth... So, Pat, are you a Republican or a Democrat? Oh. my. gosh.... If you know my grandma, you know she thinks Obama will stick you on an old person island to die with some magic kool-aid. She will recruit anyone to work the polls and join the tea party. So she asks this ridiculous question at which point I was about to crawl under the table when Pat says Republican. Thank the Lord! Someone please tell grandma you don't ask people you don't know about money, religion, or politics! As we were sitting there waiting, over the loud speaker we hear "Joe Kline, call on line one". We both froze and stared at each other. For those of you who don't know, my grandpa's name was Joe Kline! Whenever grandma and I would go shopping when I was younger, he would always tell me not to let grandma spend any money. There's a story that one time while grandma was swiping her plastic, I embarrassed her at the check out by saying something like "But grandma, grandpa said you couldn't spend anymore money". Grandma took the intercom announcement as grandpa approving her car purchase since he had always done that stuff for her in the past. I took it as grandpa telling me to not let her spend anymore money. :) Well I failed because a few signatures later, we were on our way home and grandma is now the owner of a new car. Successful morning!
So this weekend, I will be attending a wedding! Heather Sanning-RSVP'ed for 1! Oh singleness, some days you truly are awesome. On wedding weekends however, you are stupid. Now, don't get me wrong, I have fabulous friends (all of which are in long-term relationships or married) who never make me feel like the odd man out. BUT.. The moment my favorite slow song comes on and I get to be the 3rd to a slow dance, I will be less than excited about being able to do what I want, when I want without worrying about someone else's plans. While checking out my new addiction thanks to Joni, someecards.com, I found one that said "Thanks for believing that I can conceivably fill the "plus one" and not mocking me when I can't." Seriously.. Story of my life for the last 2 1/2 years-- the time when everyone I know is getting married!
I know there are people who are in relationships who miss being single. I know there are single people who miss being in a relationship (me, me!). But there are plus and minuses to each and I think they are often forgotten because everyone always thinks the grass is greener on the other side. When you are single, I think it's a time for growing. I know who I am now, without a doubt. If you would have asked me 3 years ago, who I thought I was, was completely wrapped up in a boy. Now, I know I can live alone and not be totally freaked out by a strange noise, survive on dinners of cereal and pasta roni because there are bills that come with living alone (dear future boys, I can't cook), and be comfortable with the silence of being home alone. A lot of people I know never had the opportunity to do this because well, life happens. But when you are single, you are single. There is no one to take to a wedding, no one to call and tell about your day (although I love my momma for talking to me everyday), and no one to cuddle up with on a rainy day. I can go out with as many guys as I want and really have the opportunity to find what qualities I do and I don't want, but consistency just isn't there. You never have the opportunity to be really close with someone when that someone is always changing. You don't want to tell someone your life story if they won't be around next week. Being single has it's fun, exciting and new moments when you are getting to know new people and have the opportunity to make decisions on a moments notice. But being in a relationship has fun parts too. Some parts which I know I don't need to tell you about ;) but besides that, you have a best friend who is always on your side. I know that's a part that can easily be overlooked because fights happen and it seems like you are against each other at times. But in a relationship, you have someone you can count on. You have someone you share interests with, can spend time with in your sweatpants and not feel guilty about it, and will accompany you to things like weddings. Lord knows there are a gazillion more things that can go with each, but I think everyone can overlook the simple stuff. It's usually the simple stuff that makes or breaks a relationship and your view on being single or in that relationship. The simple stuff is more likely than not what attracted you to someone in the first place. If you are in a relationship and are alone more often than not, being single may seem like a fine option. Being in a long term relationship that has no hope of going anywhere serious like the aisle, perfect reason to run if that's something you truly want. Have I questioned my sanity for walking away from a 2 1/2 year relationship because I was waiting for the next step that I knew wouldn't happen to only end up being single for 2 1/2 years? Absolutely! But I know it was the right decision because of the people I have met along this new journey and the people I ended up being friends with as a result of that relationship. In a relationship, I think you know when things are exactly how you wanted. If you are always looking at being single as sucky, but less sucky than your current relationship, run! But, for those of you in a relationship, make sure you appreciate what you do have. You have a partner in crime and confidant. Don't let the stress of life distract you from the basics.
Have a fabulous week everyone! :)
So the new book this week was Thoughtless by S.C. Stephens. A.M.A.Z.I.N.G. Girl moves across the country with her hot, Australian boyfriend. They move in with his friend, who he knew growing up. This friend just happens to be the local rock star who I imagine looks like a hotter version of Paul Walker (if that's possible). Australian boyfriend has to go out of town for his internship for 2 months. Of course that leaves college girl and rock star home alone. I'm sure you can imagine what happens there. Such a good book. I'm reading the second part to this, Effortless. It's not 50 Shades, but it's pretty dang close.. Minus the red room of pain of course. :)
Alright, I guess I should explain my need to traipse up and down 74 this weekend like it was my job. Went home Friday night for the 3 day weekend, of course. Well, earlier in the week, grandma decided she just had to buy a new car. The need for one was lacking, but apparently once your car has 80,000 miles on it, it is a death trap. (In which case, most people I know should be buying new cars). After talking to grandma about what she wanted, we decided to go see my friend who sells the exact type of car she wanted. So grandma and I made the trip back to Indy Saturday morning. Oh Lord did I feel bad for Pat. There was a car I thought grandma would love. We show it to her, she opens the door, shuts it and says "That interior is disgusting". It was tan! Ugh! On to the next car or two. Still nothing. Thank the lord a trade came in a few days before we got there that wasn't out on the lot. Almost exactly what she wanted minus the heated leather seats she had to have for her "old bones". I swear her doctor told her she needed them and probably gave her the name of his car salesman friend. She gets in the car for a test drive and says the interior was morbid or something like that since it was grey. So no tan, but grey is dreary? Alrighty then. Two test drives later, we have a winner! A 2012 with like 1500 miles on it! Success! Hard part done! So we are sitting there talking to Pat while they are filling out paperwork and what not, and guess what comes out of grandma's mouth... So, Pat, are you a Republican or a Democrat? Oh. my. gosh.... If you know my grandma, you know she thinks Obama will stick you on an old person island to die with some magic kool-aid. She will recruit anyone to work the polls and join the tea party. So she asks this ridiculous question at which point I was about to crawl under the table when Pat says Republican. Thank the Lord! Someone please tell grandma you don't ask people you don't know about money, religion, or politics! As we were sitting there waiting, over the loud speaker we hear "Joe Kline, call on line one". We both froze and stared at each other. For those of you who don't know, my grandpa's name was Joe Kline! Whenever grandma and I would go shopping when I was younger, he would always tell me not to let grandma spend any money. There's a story that one time while grandma was swiping her plastic, I embarrassed her at the check out by saying something like "But grandma, grandpa said you couldn't spend anymore money". Grandma took the intercom announcement as grandpa approving her car purchase since he had always done that stuff for her in the past. I took it as grandpa telling me to not let her spend anymore money. :) Well I failed because a few signatures later, we were on our way home and grandma is now the owner of a new car. Successful morning!
So this weekend, I will be attending a wedding! Heather Sanning-RSVP'ed for 1! Oh singleness, some days you truly are awesome. On wedding weekends however, you are stupid. Now, don't get me wrong, I have fabulous friends (all of which are in long-term relationships or married) who never make me feel like the odd man out. BUT.. The moment my favorite slow song comes on and I get to be the 3rd to a slow dance, I will be less than excited about being able to do what I want, when I want without worrying about someone else's plans. While checking out my new addiction thanks to Joni, someecards.com, I found one that said "Thanks for believing that I can conceivably fill the "plus one" and not mocking me when I can't." Seriously.. Story of my life for the last 2 1/2 years-- the time when everyone I know is getting married!
I know there are people who are in relationships who miss being single. I know there are single people who miss being in a relationship (me, me!). But there are plus and minuses to each and I think they are often forgotten because everyone always thinks the grass is greener on the other side. When you are single, I think it's a time for growing. I know who I am now, without a doubt. If you would have asked me 3 years ago, who I thought I was, was completely wrapped up in a boy. Now, I know I can live alone and not be totally freaked out by a strange noise, survive on dinners of cereal and pasta roni because there are bills that come with living alone (dear future boys, I can't cook), and be comfortable with the silence of being home alone. A lot of people I know never had the opportunity to do this because well, life happens. But when you are single, you are single. There is no one to take to a wedding, no one to call and tell about your day (although I love my momma for talking to me everyday), and no one to cuddle up with on a rainy day. I can go out with as many guys as I want and really have the opportunity to find what qualities I do and I don't want, but consistency just isn't there. You never have the opportunity to be really close with someone when that someone is always changing. You don't want to tell someone your life story if they won't be around next week. Being single has it's fun, exciting and new moments when you are getting to know new people and have the opportunity to make decisions on a moments notice. But being in a relationship has fun parts too. Some parts which I know I don't need to tell you about ;) but besides that, you have a best friend who is always on your side. I know that's a part that can easily be overlooked because fights happen and it seems like you are against each other at times. But in a relationship, you have someone you can count on. You have someone you share interests with, can spend time with in your sweatpants and not feel guilty about it, and will accompany you to things like weddings. Lord knows there are a gazillion more things that can go with each, but I think everyone can overlook the simple stuff. It's usually the simple stuff that makes or breaks a relationship and your view on being single or in that relationship. The simple stuff is more likely than not what attracted you to someone in the first place. If you are in a relationship and are alone more often than not, being single may seem like a fine option. Being in a long term relationship that has no hope of going anywhere serious like the aisle, perfect reason to run if that's something you truly want. Have I questioned my sanity for walking away from a 2 1/2 year relationship because I was waiting for the next step that I knew wouldn't happen to only end up being single for 2 1/2 years? Absolutely! But I know it was the right decision because of the people I have met along this new journey and the people I ended up being friends with as a result of that relationship. In a relationship, I think you know when things are exactly how you wanted. If you are always looking at being single as sucky, but less sucky than your current relationship, run! But, for those of you in a relationship, make sure you appreciate what you do have. You have a partner in crime and confidant. Don't let the stress of life distract you from the basics.
Have a fabulous week everyone! :)
Sunday, August 19, 2012
I had a great time on our date, unless you didn't. In which case I didn't either.
Hello, hello! Hope everyone had a fabulous weekend! Mine was pretty boring with the exception of Friday night. Can I just tell you how much I hate that I'm a grown up and having an internal alarm clock now?? Ugh. I can't sleep past 9am on the weekend to save my life. But that does mean that today I went shopping for jeans (which every girl knows can be unfun) and went to the grocery and was back home before 1pm. Side note: If you are a fan of AE jeans, now is the time to get them. They are all $30... I realized today that even though I am one person and live alone, cleaning, laundry, work, etc take up so much time! Hats off to all the moms with kids who do this for 3 and 4 and 5 people. Some days I just feel like I'm always cleaning! And I am a clean and organized person!
One of my latest reads last week was a book called Trigger by Susan Vaught. Totally different than the usual love story stuff I torture myself with but it was on the list of recommended reads by Amazon for under $4. Trigger is about a 16 year boy (he also is the stereotypical jock/popular kid) who attempted to kill himself by shooting himself in the head. Except, he fails. He doesn't remember anything from the year prior to the suicide attempt and really has no friends anymore to fill him in on why he attempted to take his own life. His family doesn't know why he did what he did, so the book takes you along on his journey to understand why he attempted to kill himself and how to not be that person again. He has to relearn how to walk, has to carry a memory book and in conversation will spit out random words like socks and frog farts. Pretty good book and I think is a more current view on high school compared to when I went through. It also paints a very good picture about how things like this can affect the whole family dynamic. As you can imagine, his parents had a very difficult time with this.
Ok so this post isn't about online dating, speed dating or anything else crazy but just dating in general. Seriously, I don't get it. Not even a little bit and that's clearly why I am still single. Yes, yes I know it will happen when it happens and love finds you when you don't expect it. But, in the meantime, is there not some sort of relationship that can teach me some little short lesson about what I do or don't want? Or at least entertain me and be my date to weddings and double dates. In talking with my best friend on the way home Friday night, I am apparently going for all the wrong guys or I am just really not wanting a relationship. So I made a little list... In the past 2 years, I have gone out with (at least one date) with about 10 guys (I think it might be a little higher). I thought maybe there were a few guys but making a list made me say "Oh, crap.". Obviously I know that you won't always hit it off with everyone you go out with but how did none of these result in some sort of actual exclusive relationship?! Yes, my standards may be a little high. Even my dad will tell you I can find something wrong with everyone. But what about the ones I can't find something wrong with? Well, they disappear. Serious. I will never understand the lack of honesty or just telling someone that yea, you are fun, but not for me. I'm not sure how nice it is, but I have no problem doing it. No reason to string someone along.
I've decided that I'm single because of 1 of 2 reasons: Reason 1: Of course the one that us girls with morals have to deal with. Not being the girl that sleeps around on the first date, or second date, or the stereotypical third date. I guess I'm old fashioned in that I want a real relationship. Crazy that I would actually want to love someone or at least think I can love them before doing something like that? Apparently. Or at least the guys that believe the same thing are impossible to find. Reason 2: I can be one of the guys. Yes, on a Saturday I would rather sit at home and watch motocross on tv than go to a mall (unless mom is buying, then I will set the DVR :)). Brotocross and RacerX are always on my recent internet pages and my twitter is basically just for following racers and country musicians. I am a subscriber to Car and Driver and go to car shows with my dad and my brother. I would rather be in a t-shirt, jeans and my Nikes. That said, I do like being girly and putting on a dress and some heels. But I'm not going to fake who I am to get some guy to be interested enough to like me and then disappear when I put on my sweats and put my hair up in a ponytail. Another issue is that I think guys tell you they want someone who has a job, their own place and is independent (all of which I am), but I think they would much rather attempt to rescue someone. Just about every guy I know has dated the idiot that can do nothing for herself and lacks common sense that tells her she is driving a Chevy and not a Ford and those relationships last months and years longer than they should. Is being independent intimidating??? I thought not being needy was a plus but maybe I'm doing it all wrong. I don't want to chase guys. Either you are interested and want to see me, or you aren't, which is fine too. Maybe that is the whole wrong attitude, but I don't know how else to be. If you call or text too much, you are a stage 5 clinger. If you don't, then you aren't interested. Someone tell me the happy medium! :) Is this a problem only I run into? I cannot be the only one who can't have a normal dating experience that leads to a relationship. Yes, I know I have screwed up at least 1 of those 10 or so potential relationships but geez. I can't catch a break! If any other single ladies (or guys for that matter) have any words of wisdom, I would love to hear it. Seriously! Again, I know love will happen when it's supposed to. But I can't get past a 3rd date!
One of my latest reads last week was a book called Trigger by Susan Vaught. Totally different than the usual love story stuff I torture myself with but it was on the list of recommended reads by Amazon for under $4. Trigger is about a 16 year boy (he also is the stereotypical jock/popular kid) who attempted to kill himself by shooting himself in the head. Except, he fails. He doesn't remember anything from the year prior to the suicide attempt and really has no friends anymore to fill him in on why he attempted to take his own life. His family doesn't know why he did what he did, so the book takes you along on his journey to understand why he attempted to kill himself and how to not be that person again. He has to relearn how to walk, has to carry a memory book and in conversation will spit out random words like socks and frog farts. Pretty good book and I think is a more current view on high school compared to when I went through. It also paints a very good picture about how things like this can affect the whole family dynamic. As you can imagine, his parents had a very difficult time with this.
Ok so this post isn't about online dating, speed dating or anything else crazy but just dating in general. Seriously, I don't get it. Not even a little bit and that's clearly why I am still single. Yes, yes I know it will happen when it happens and love finds you when you don't expect it. But, in the meantime, is there not some sort of relationship that can teach me some little short lesson about what I do or don't want? Or at least entertain me and be my date to weddings and double dates. In talking with my best friend on the way home Friday night, I am apparently going for all the wrong guys or I am just really not wanting a relationship. So I made a little list... In the past 2 years, I have gone out with (at least one date) with about 10 guys (I think it might be a little higher). I thought maybe there were a few guys but making a list made me say "Oh, crap.". Obviously I know that you won't always hit it off with everyone you go out with but how did none of these result in some sort of actual exclusive relationship?! Yes, my standards may be a little high. Even my dad will tell you I can find something wrong with everyone. But what about the ones I can't find something wrong with? Well, they disappear. Serious. I will never understand the lack of honesty or just telling someone that yea, you are fun, but not for me. I'm not sure how nice it is, but I have no problem doing it. No reason to string someone along.
I've decided that I'm single because of 1 of 2 reasons: Reason 1: Of course the one that us girls with morals have to deal with. Not being the girl that sleeps around on the first date, or second date, or the stereotypical third date. I guess I'm old fashioned in that I want a real relationship. Crazy that I would actually want to love someone or at least think I can love them before doing something like that? Apparently. Or at least the guys that believe the same thing are impossible to find. Reason 2: I can be one of the guys. Yes, on a Saturday I would rather sit at home and watch motocross on tv than go to a mall (unless mom is buying, then I will set the DVR :)). Brotocross and RacerX are always on my recent internet pages and my twitter is basically just for following racers and country musicians. I am a subscriber to Car and Driver and go to car shows with my dad and my brother. I would rather be in a t-shirt, jeans and my Nikes. That said, I do like being girly and putting on a dress and some heels. But I'm not going to fake who I am to get some guy to be interested enough to like me and then disappear when I put on my sweats and put my hair up in a ponytail. Another issue is that I think guys tell you they want someone who has a job, their own place and is independent (all of which I am), but I think they would much rather attempt to rescue someone. Just about every guy I know has dated the idiot that can do nothing for herself and lacks common sense that tells her she is driving a Chevy and not a Ford and those relationships last months and years longer than they should. Is being independent intimidating??? I thought not being needy was a plus but maybe I'm doing it all wrong. I don't want to chase guys. Either you are interested and want to see me, or you aren't, which is fine too. Maybe that is the whole wrong attitude, but I don't know how else to be. If you call or text too much, you are a stage 5 clinger. If you don't, then you aren't interested. Someone tell me the happy medium! :) Is this a problem only I run into? I cannot be the only one who can't have a normal dating experience that leads to a relationship. Yes, I know I have screwed up at least 1 of those 10 or so potential relationships but geez. I can't catch a break! If any other single ladies (or guys for that matter) have any words of wisdom, I would love to hear it. Seriously! Again, I know love will happen when it's supposed to. But I can't get past a 3rd date!
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
I'll Bet You a Drink or Two That I Can Make You Put That Lampshade on Your Head!
Good Morning and Happy Tuesday! I probably should have blogged last night but I'm a boring, old person and passed out on the couch by like 7. I had a busy weekend and was seriously lacking in the sleep department. And can I just tell you how much I miss spending time with my own bed?? How I end up on couches, I have no idea. But those couches have nothing on my bed. During college, I was the girl who barely went out to the bars, got annoyed by drunks and would rather be at home. Oh how that has changed. Nothing like acting like you are 21 when you are really 25. I figure at this point... if you can't beat em, join em. And they are really kind of fun!
This weekend I learned so much about how the whole thing works when you try to pick people up in a bar. Keep in mind that I would never be the type to go home with a random from a bar. Yes, I know people do it all the time. I feel like you are just asking for something bad to happen. The guys you have never met and decide to go home with, could really just want to make you a skin coat. That is not for me! That said, Friday was without a doubt the most awkward night of my life and really fun all rolled into one. The whole thing started when boy#1 and I made plans to hang out Friday night. Yes, at this point he is boy#1.. Ridiculous that they need numbers? Maybe a little, but you don't get their names.. Ok, so Friday night rolls around and boy#1 tells me he spaced and that boy#2 is coming to town. I think ok, whatever, I'm actually pooped and would be ok with going to bed early. Then I get invited along to Broad Ripple. 1 Heather, 2 boys. Should be awkward enough right? Especially since boy#2 is the boy I saw like 3 or 4 weekends in a row and nothing ever happened. Boy#1 is way cute and boy#2 decided he likes the single life after seeing me a bunch. Following? Good! So I decide to be DD yet again. This time I swear it's going to have to actually happen because I am not leaving my car in BRip overnight to get towed away.
The first bar we go to is Brothers, which I really don't like. Last time I was there, it was packed! And being a short person, I didn't stand a chance. Nothing like being stepped on all night and never being able to get to the bar. So we get to Brothers and really it's not too crazy crowded. It's full of people but I can actually walk around. The whole dynamic of 2 guys being in a bar with 1 girl I found to be hilarious! I really had no chance of getting hit on all night which was fine with me, but I think girls were confused on which guy I was with. If I was talking to boy#1, he got no attention. If I was talking to boy #2, he got no attention. And when I talked to them both, I think other guys wondered why I was awesome enough to get two guys. ;) While standing around and people watching a girl walks by and basically undresses boy#1 with her eyes and then some. Really?! Girls do that stuff?? It was awkward enough that the 3 of us noticed and were in shock at how blatant it was. Not going to lie, the green eyed monster of jealousy popped up a little because I was so annoyed. I don't think I have been jealous of a girl looking at a guy I was with in a long time, but there it was. After some more standing around, both boys noticed a girl a table away from us talking to her friends. And she noticed them looking. At this point boy#2 tells me how for the rest of the night she will dance around with her butt to them for the rest of the night. Sure enough, she did. And then she proceeded to dance like a slut with one of her friends. Really?! Eww. Boy#1 notices pretty girl in a black dress and tells me she will go home with someone by the end of the night. I didn't see it. Not even for a second. She was girl next door pretty wearing a black dress I could wear to work and didn't even have on hooker heels. But, about 2 hrs later befrore we moved on to the next bar, she was sitting at a table with a guy she wasn't with earlier in the night, being more touchy feely than I would be in a public place. By the time we got to Rock Lobster, our second stop of the night, boy#1 and boy#2 (I feel like I'm referring to them like Thing #1 and Thing #2) were pretty much hammered. It was pretty much an uneventful time at the 2nd bar because the guys were too drunk to notice any girls and they had already been warned that no bar sluts were allowed in my car since I was driving home. :)
Not that anything miraculous happened Friday, but going out to the bars with guys is a whole other experience than going with your girl friends. Seems like guys are always on the prowl and know exactly what they are looking for. It's like a shark who senses blood in the water.
Ok now to the boring stuff.. reading! I'm such a dork I know, but one of my New Year's resolutions was to read at least a book a month. I think I've read enough for the whole year.. A few weeks ago, I read Easy by Tammara Webber. Boring girl goes off to college with her boyfriend who becomes fraternity boy and basically forgets she exists and breaks her heart to go have fun with other girls. Douche.. She has a bad night and mystery boy comes to save her, all the while she is emailing the TA back and forth in a class she missed while mending her broken heart. She falls for both guys but there's a surprise there.. I can't tell you, but it's good. Easy read with lots of twists and turns.
Ok. That's enough for today. Have a good week and I'm sure with the Happy Hour party Friday, I will have plenty to add next week!
This weekend I learned so much about how the whole thing works when you try to pick people up in a bar. Keep in mind that I would never be the type to go home with a random from a bar. Yes, I know people do it all the time. I feel like you are just asking for something bad to happen. The guys you have never met and decide to go home with, could really just want to make you a skin coat. That is not for me! That said, Friday was without a doubt the most awkward night of my life and really fun all rolled into one. The whole thing started when boy#1 and I made plans to hang out Friday night. Yes, at this point he is boy#1.. Ridiculous that they need numbers? Maybe a little, but you don't get their names.. Ok, so Friday night rolls around and boy#1 tells me he spaced and that boy#2 is coming to town. I think ok, whatever, I'm actually pooped and would be ok with going to bed early. Then I get invited along to Broad Ripple. 1 Heather, 2 boys. Should be awkward enough right? Especially since boy#2 is the boy I saw like 3 or 4 weekends in a row and nothing ever happened. Boy#1 is way cute and boy#2 decided he likes the single life after seeing me a bunch. Following? Good! So I decide to be DD yet again. This time I swear it's going to have to actually happen because I am not leaving my car in BRip overnight to get towed away.
The first bar we go to is Brothers, which I really don't like. Last time I was there, it was packed! And being a short person, I didn't stand a chance. Nothing like being stepped on all night and never being able to get to the bar. So we get to Brothers and really it's not too crazy crowded. It's full of people but I can actually walk around. The whole dynamic of 2 guys being in a bar with 1 girl I found to be hilarious! I really had no chance of getting hit on all night which was fine with me, but I think girls were confused on which guy I was with. If I was talking to boy#1, he got no attention. If I was talking to boy #2, he got no attention. And when I talked to them both, I think other guys wondered why I was awesome enough to get two guys. ;) While standing around and people watching a girl walks by and basically undresses boy#1 with her eyes and then some. Really?! Girls do that stuff?? It was awkward enough that the 3 of us noticed and were in shock at how blatant it was. Not going to lie, the green eyed monster of jealousy popped up a little because I was so annoyed. I don't think I have been jealous of a girl looking at a guy I was with in a long time, but there it was. After some more standing around, both boys noticed a girl a table away from us talking to her friends. And she noticed them looking. At this point boy#2 tells me how for the rest of the night she will dance around with her butt to them for the rest of the night. Sure enough, she did. And then she proceeded to dance like a slut with one of her friends. Really?! Eww. Boy#1 notices pretty girl in a black dress and tells me she will go home with someone by the end of the night. I didn't see it. Not even for a second. She was girl next door pretty wearing a black dress I could wear to work and didn't even have on hooker heels. But, about 2 hrs later befrore we moved on to the next bar, she was sitting at a table with a guy she wasn't with earlier in the night, being more touchy feely than I would be in a public place. By the time we got to Rock Lobster, our second stop of the night, boy#1 and boy#2 (I feel like I'm referring to them like Thing #1 and Thing #2) were pretty much hammered. It was pretty much an uneventful time at the 2nd bar because the guys were too drunk to notice any girls and they had already been warned that no bar sluts were allowed in my car since I was driving home. :)
Not that anything miraculous happened Friday, but going out to the bars with guys is a whole other experience than going with your girl friends. Seems like guys are always on the prowl and know exactly what they are looking for. It's like a shark who senses blood in the water.
Ok now to the boring stuff.. reading! I'm such a dork I know, but one of my New Year's resolutions was to read at least a book a month. I think I've read enough for the whole year.. A few weeks ago, I read Easy by Tammara Webber. Boring girl goes off to college with her boyfriend who becomes fraternity boy and basically forgets she exists and breaks her heart to go have fun with other girls. Douche.. She has a bad night and mystery boy comes to save her, all the while she is emailing the TA back and forth in a class she missed while mending her broken heart. She falls for both guys but there's a surprise there.. I can't tell you, but it's good. Easy read with lots of twists and turns.
Ok. That's enough for today. Have a good week and I'm sure with the Happy Hour party Friday, I will have plenty to add next week!
Thursday, August 2, 2012
POF: Plenty of Freaks
Post number 3! Welcome back!
For reading this week, I figured I would tell all you girls about a book you must get! Thirty Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know by the Time She's 30. This book is part of a Glamour Magazine list and has stories by actresses, singers (Taylor Swift!), women in finance, and news anchors. This is the best list and I have really tried to make sure I do these things. I have a little under 5 years left and love checking some of the things off. For example, the list includes things like: By 30 you should have: Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour, one best friend who always makes you laugh, and a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill and a black lace bra. By 30 you should know: How to fall in love without losing yourself, how you feel about having kids, and how to live alone, even if you don't like to. This really is an amazing book. These are things I would have never thought to make myself aware of but am so glad I can check some of these things off my list!
Now, on to more fun things... like internet dating!! Yes, I know how ridiculous it sounds. And those of you in long term relationships with fabulous significant others, well you are lucky to have met them in college, at work, or even at your local fair and shared a drunk make-out. Since college is over, there are 3 guys at work (not one of which who is under 40), and my friends, who I love dearly, can't set me up with anyone to save their lives, I am/was hopeful of ending up like one of the one in five relationships that now start on an online dating site. Well, I started on Match about a year ago. I figured while it may cost money to have a subscription, the free dinners would make up for it. Yes, being a girl you may have a monthly gift, but you also get free dinner and drinks. Boys, you are really missing out on that. Especially since you all have to pay for match and buy drinks. Anyway, after a few messages back and forth with a guy from the Castleton area, the date was planned and we went to dinner. Now, I have always heard you should never date a police officer. I didn't get the point of that since grandpa was a cop and he was totally normal. Well, this guy was less than normal. Super awkward the whole time and at some point mentioned he wondered what I would look like in his uniform. Seriously!! I wonder what my face looked like when he said that because I'm sure it was ridiculous. I know first dates can be nerve wracking, but who cares! There is no excuse for that kind of stuff to come out of your mouth. These are usually people you will never see again, especially with online dating, but if you are really interested in dating, that is not the route to take. Needless to say, that guy didn't get a second date. Fast forward a few months and I end up going out with a cop again. I don't know how I attract them, but I do so I figured I would give this guy a try. Date planned and we met at a restaurant about 10 minutes from my apartment. Disaster yet again. The guy barely talked and when he did, it was just about his job. I know as a police officer you must see some pretty interesting stuff, but you do have a life outside of work right? No? Oh, then that explains it! No more dates with cops. Although now I am hopeful that if I'm pulled over in Marion County or Hamilton County, maybe it will be them and maybe I can get out of a ticket! ;) My grandpa must have been a rare breed or my grandma is a saint. After failing at everything on Match, I stopped paying for that (neither date was worth it obviously!).
Then, one of my friends told me about POF: Plenty of Fish. And it's free! That means more guys and better chances right? Not even! Oh my gosh the amount of creepers is ridiculous. I don't even think I have had 1 date from POF. If I have, clearly it wasn't worth remembering. Now I know girls who have met their guys on there but it just may not be in the cards for me or I am too lazy to spend all my time digging for the good guys. I'm pretty sure guys on there all want hookups or to be a pen pal. If I wanted a pen pal, I'd pick someone a whole lot cooler and in a better locale than Indy. I'd rather have a 5th grade pen pal from Indonesia than your boring butt. So here we are, about one year later and I decided to give match another try. I'll keep you up to date on any awkwardness that stems for that! Until then here's the disclaimer I put on my profile: If you are old enough to be my dad, or your profile has you drinking or making obscene gestures in every picture, we won't be a match. I try to live my life in a way that makes me the nice girl you can take home to mom. The crazy party boy isn't the guy I want to take home to meet dad. That's not too much to ask right? Laugh at it.. because guys really don't read it! Nothing like getting a wink or message from a 53 yr old..
Oh, and the funniest part of online dating (Match in particular)... seeing people you know! It always makes you feel better when you see you aren't the only one who is unlucky in love. The weekly emails of who your best "matches" are makes me laugh because every now and then, I see my ex listed. That should automatically make me lose all faith in the online dating system. If you think that's my match, you must be drunk. The temptation is there to look at the profiles of the guys I know, but then they know I looked. Online dating is less than sneaky...
For reading this week, I figured I would tell all you girls about a book you must get! Thirty Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know by the Time She's 30. This book is part of a Glamour Magazine list and has stories by actresses, singers (Taylor Swift!), women in finance, and news anchors. This is the best list and I have really tried to make sure I do these things. I have a little under 5 years left and love checking some of the things off. For example, the list includes things like: By 30 you should have: Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour, one best friend who always makes you laugh, and a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill and a black lace bra. By 30 you should know: How to fall in love without losing yourself, how you feel about having kids, and how to live alone, even if you don't like to. This really is an amazing book. These are things I would have never thought to make myself aware of but am so glad I can check some of these things off my list!
Now, on to more fun things... like internet dating!! Yes, I know how ridiculous it sounds. And those of you in long term relationships with fabulous significant others, well you are lucky to have met them in college, at work, or even at your local fair and shared a drunk make-out. Since college is over, there are 3 guys at work (not one of which who is under 40), and my friends, who I love dearly, can't set me up with anyone to save their lives, I am/was hopeful of ending up like one of the one in five relationships that now start on an online dating site. Well, I started on Match about a year ago. I figured while it may cost money to have a subscription, the free dinners would make up for it. Yes, being a girl you may have a monthly gift, but you also get free dinner and drinks. Boys, you are really missing out on that. Especially since you all have to pay for match and buy drinks. Anyway, after a few messages back and forth with a guy from the Castleton area, the date was planned and we went to dinner. Now, I have always heard you should never date a police officer. I didn't get the point of that since grandpa was a cop and he was totally normal. Well, this guy was less than normal. Super awkward the whole time and at some point mentioned he wondered what I would look like in his uniform. Seriously!! I wonder what my face looked like when he said that because I'm sure it was ridiculous. I know first dates can be nerve wracking, but who cares! There is no excuse for that kind of stuff to come out of your mouth. These are usually people you will never see again, especially with online dating, but if you are really interested in dating, that is not the route to take. Needless to say, that guy didn't get a second date. Fast forward a few months and I end up going out with a cop again. I don't know how I attract them, but I do so I figured I would give this guy a try. Date planned and we met at a restaurant about 10 minutes from my apartment. Disaster yet again. The guy barely talked and when he did, it was just about his job. I know as a police officer you must see some pretty interesting stuff, but you do have a life outside of work right? No? Oh, then that explains it! No more dates with cops. Although now I am hopeful that if I'm pulled over in Marion County or Hamilton County, maybe it will be them and maybe I can get out of a ticket! ;) My grandpa must have been a rare breed or my grandma is a saint. After failing at everything on Match, I stopped paying for that (neither date was worth it obviously!).
Then, one of my friends told me about POF: Plenty of Fish. And it's free! That means more guys and better chances right? Not even! Oh my gosh the amount of creepers is ridiculous. I don't even think I have had 1 date from POF. If I have, clearly it wasn't worth remembering. Now I know girls who have met their guys on there but it just may not be in the cards for me or I am too lazy to spend all my time digging for the good guys. I'm pretty sure guys on there all want hookups or to be a pen pal. If I wanted a pen pal, I'd pick someone a whole lot cooler and in a better locale than Indy. I'd rather have a 5th grade pen pal from Indonesia than your boring butt. So here we are, about one year later and I decided to give match another try. I'll keep you up to date on any awkwardness that stems for that! Until then here's the disclaimer I put on my profile: If you are old enough to be my dad, or your profile has you drinking or making obscene gestures in every picture, we won't be a match. I try to live my life in a way that makes me the nice girl you can take home to mom. The crazy party boy isn't the guy I want to take home to meet dad. That's not too much to ask right? Laugh at it.. because guys really don't read it! Nothing like getting a wink or message from a 53 yr old..
Oh, and the funniest part of online dating (Match in particular)... seeing people you know! It always makes you feel better when you see you aren't the only one who is unlucky in love. The weekly emails of who your best "matches" are makes me laugh because every now and then, I see my ex listed. That should automatically make me lose all faith in the online dating system. If you think that's my match, you must be drunk. The temptation is there to look at the profiles of the guys I know, but then they know I looked. Online dating is less than sneaky...
Tuesday, July 24, 2012
50 Shades of Speed Dating
Hello, hello! Welcome back! First I just wanted to say thanks to those of you who read my last post. Seriously, you are awesome and I love that you took 3 minutes out of your life to read about mine. :) If you loved it and are here reading again, thanks a million! If you hated it... ehh sorry. And no you won't get those 3 minutes back (or these 3 if you are reading again).
So next up, I thought I would add in what I'm reading or have read recently. Might as well start with the obvious- the 50 Shades of Grey series. Everyone is talking about it. If you read it, you know why and if you haven't, what in the world are you waiting for? Seriously amazing. My mother of all people told me to read it and I was more than skeptical since I had heard it was basically porn in word form (and frankly I was a tad shocked my mother of all people read it and liked it). And parts of it totally are. While reading, I was blushing and thinking to myself "You put what, where?!?!?". Totally worth the $30 though because the story of the innocent, recent college grad who falls for a bad boy billionaire is much deeper than and better than the very descriptive physical aspect of their relationship. I was very glad to have it on my Kindle though because I don't know how I would have felt reading it in public.
In my last post, I promised fun stories about dating. So get ready because this one is about speed dating! While at work about 2 months ago I got a Groupon alert on my phone for speed dating. After talking to a co-worker about going with me and our manager telling us how much fun she had doing it, we were sold! After RSVPing to the first event and being told it was full, we RSVPed to the next event. No response to emails or anything confirming we were supposed to go. After numerous calls and emails we had to contact the manager of the place where the event was taking place. Less than 2 hours before we were supposed to be there, we got in contact with the SpeedDate guy and were told we were on the list to show up. This should have been a sign but I completely overlooked it. So we get our cute clothes on and head to BluMartini. When we get there, the older age group who went before us is taking forever to wrap things up! We decided to order some food and while we were sitting there we noticed a ton of girls coming in and hardly any guys around. When the time finally came for us to go sit down, there were at least 10-15 girls and 3 guys. Yes, 3. Now maybe if they looked like super awesome guys, I would have been more excited about this. But at this point, I was ready to bail. Since that would be rude, we stayed and talked to these guys. There were no timers like you see in the movies when I really wanted one, more than once. Candidate 1 was a really nice, educated guy from Niger, Africa. The guy was a genius and I felt less than adequate. Why no, I actually don't have a PhD in genetics. Possible for a guy to be too smart for you? Because I was there. Candidate 2 was a guy named Julio who was an engineer from Columbus. Talking to this guy was about as exciting as talking to a doorknob. Are all engineers just super awkward? If so, they need to be taken out of my dating rotation stat! The 3rd and final candidate was my personal favorite. Aside from being about 3 years older than I would date (he was 35, which I know isn't super old, but a lot of life happens in 10 years), he looked like an Amish man. No offense to the Amish, but I am not at all attracted to a man with that much facial hair. The only half-way good looking Amish guy I have seen was Tim Allen in For Richer For Poorer when he didn't have facial hair. Minus the fact this guy was as awkward as can be, he had no chance. This is what happens when I try the new, hip way to meet people. We were assured after the clearly lopsided turnout we could go again for free. Surprise that the website hasn't been updated for new date nights? I think not.
The best part of my day so far was completely spacing on the fact that my mom bought me the 2nd book in the 50 Shades series after I already bought it. That means I had a $10 Amazon credit. So today I decided that I had to have the DVD of Something Borrowed (also another great book). Go to the check out and bam! My total due was $0.00. Success! The most annoying part of today (and several other days) is answering the phone at work "Good afternoon, Wagner Reese". The person on the other end then says "Uh yes, is this Wagner Reese?". No sir, I just knew thats who you were looking for and felt like tricking you. My other favorite is that our phone number begins 569. Auto King's begins 596 and the rest of the numbers are the same. Same scenario. "Is this Auto King?" Did I answer the phone and say "Good afternoon, Auto King"? Nooooo. The simplest things escape people. If everyone had a little common sense, imagine what a great place this would be. :) End rant.
So next up, I thought I would add in what I'm reading or have read recently. Might as well start with the obvious- the 50 Shades of Grey series. Everyone is talking about it. If you read it, you know why and if you haven't, what in the world are you waiting for? Seriously amazing. My mother of all people told me to read it and I was more than skeptical since I had heard it was basically porn in word form (and frankly I was a tad shocked my mother of all people read it and liked it). And parts of it totally are. While reading, I was blushing and thinking to myself "You put what, where?!?!?". Totally worth the $30 though because the story of the innocent, recent college grad who falls for a bad boy billionaire is much deeper than and better than the very descriptive physical aspect of their relationship. I was very glad to have it on my Kindle though because I don't know how I would have felt reading it in public.
In my last post, I promised fun stories about dating. So get ready because this one is about speed dating! While at work about 2 months ago I got a Groupon alert on my phone for speed dating. After talking to a co-worker about going with me and our manager telling us how much fun she had doing it, we were sold! After RSVPing to the first event and being told it was full, we RSVPed to the next event. No response to emails or anything confirming we were supposed to go. After numerous calls and emails we had to contact the manager of the place where the event was taking place. Less than 2 hours before we were supposed to be there, we got in contact with the SpeedDate guy and were told we were on the list to show up. This should have been a sign but I completely overlooked it. So we get our cute clothes on and head to BluMartini. When we get there, the older age group who went before us is taking forever to wrap things up! We decided to order some food and while we were sitting there we noticed a ton of girls coming in and hardly any guys around. When the time finally came for us to go sit down, there were at least 10-15 girls and 3 guys. Yes, 3. Now maybe if they looked like super awesome guys, I would have been more excited about this. But at this point, I was ready to bail. Since that would be rude, we stayed and talked to these guys. There were no timers like you see in the movies when I really wanted one, more than once. Candidate 1 was a really nice, educated guy from Niger, Africa. The guy was a genius and I felt less than adequate. Why no, I actually don't have a PhD in genetics. Possible for a guy to be too smart for you? Because I was there. Candidate 2 was a guy named Julio who was an engineer from Columbus. Talking to this guy was about as exciting as talking to a doorknob. Are all engineers just super awkward? If so, they need to be taken out of my dating rotation stat! The 3rd and final candidate was my personal favorite. Aside from being about 3 years older than I would date (he was 35, which I know isn't super old, but a lot of life happens in 10 years), he looked like an Amish man. No offense to the Amish, but I am not at all attracted to a man with that much facial hair. The only half-way good looking Amish guy I have seen was Tim Allen in For Richer For Poorer when he didn't have facial hair. Minus the fact this guy was as awkward as can be, he had no chance. This is what happens when I try the new, hip way to meet people. We were assured after the clearly lopsided turnout we could go again for free. Surprise that the website hasn't been updated for new date nights? I think not.
The best part of my day so far was completely spacing on the fact that my mom bought me the 2nd book in the 50 Shades series after I already bought it. That means I had a $10 Amazon credit. So today I decided that I had to have the DVD of Something Borrowed (also another great book). Go to the check out and bam! My total due was $0.00. Success! The most annoying part of today (and several other days) is answering the phone at work "Good afternoon, Wagner Reese". The person on the other end then says "Uh yes, is this Wagner Reese?". No sir, I just knew thats who you were looking for and felt like tricking you. My other favorite is that our phone number begins 569. Auto King's begins 596 and the rest of the numbers are the same. Same scenario. "Is this Auto King?" Did I answer the phone and say "Good afternoon, Auto King"? Nooooo. The simplest things escape people. If everyone had a little common sense, imagine what a great place this would be. :) End rant.
Sunday, July 22, 2012
First Time Blogger...
Hello Everyone! Welcome to a blog that I have no idea what to do with. But, after reading others blogs and laughing at what happens to them in their daily lives, I knew I had things to add because I feel like lately my life has been crazy. Everyone knows me as a girl who plans everything, has Excel spreadsheets for bill due dates, and would rather spend a Saturday night at home curled up on the couch with a book (blame my mother for that :)). In the last few months or so, I think I have come out of my shell a lot and its been a pretty hilarious process at times. There may be some new exciting things on the horizon so I can't wait to share those details, if they happen. I'm sure the next few blogs will be full of funny stories and past experiences I have to tell you about, including speed dating, exes, exes friends and online dating. Yes, speed dating and online dating.. Don't judge because I've met some great guys and have some fun stories.
First, lets start with this weekend. Went nothing like I had planned. Surprise surprise. I talked to my mom a few weeks ago about coming up this weekend to apartment hunt. My lease is up at the end of September and I have to tell the leasing office by August 1 if I am staying or leaving. Being a single lady with student loans is tough. Being a single lady with student loans and trying to be independent and live alone is tougher. So, I decided to look for anything in Fishers, Carmel or Noblesville that's cheaper than what I'm paying now. After lots of online research, really I'm getting a pretty good deal where I'm at. Even with rent going up $20 a month in October if I stay. Still decided it was worth looking at a place in downtown Noblesville if mom was coming up. The rent was much cheaper so the prospect of saving $$$ was very exciting. Set the time to see it and mom was on her way up. Then, I get a phone call while running through Kroger after work on Friday. The guy who was supposed to show the apartment to me called to say he thinks he may have already rented the place. Uh awesome.. Glad I called to set an appointment time for you to give it to someone else. He said he would call me 1 hr before the time I was supposed to look at it Saturday to let me know what's going on. At this point I'm not even sure how much I just spent at Kroger and I feel like crying because the last 2 weeks have kicked my butt and I have no back up plan because for once, I didn't think I needed one. Frustration was putting it mildly. So I hurry home and pull up apartmentguide.com (which is really helpful if you are ever looking for an apartment). I find 2 places in Noblesville that have 1 bedrooms that are cheap enough to warrant the pain of a move. Because the price was cheap it also made me a little skeptical so when mom got here I said we should go look at them on a Friday night to see what kind of people live there. I am so glad we did that. Both places were a total bust. Dad would have never let me live there alone and if he did, he would have had to buy me a gun. Not really money saving there. So this weekend was a complete waste when looking for a new place but mom and I got to hang out and shop on Saturday since the guy from the apartment never called back. I'm down to 8 days to decide whether or not to stay where I'm at and have no idea what to do. The thought alone makes me want to have a panic attack... So, I'm choosing not to think about it. :)
Saturday night my friend, who we will call Fred, decided to come up and visit for a party his old neighbors were going to. He sent me a text saying he was coming and would stop by and pick me up on the way to the party. Awesome! After being completely lost on what to do with the apartment situation, I was ready for a beer or 10. For a little background, Fred and I have known each other since college. Each one of us have always been dating someone and the timing for us has just never worked. (There are some other complications with Fred and I, but we will just act like that doesn't exist for now.) Well, since I have been single for years... literally.. And Fred is single, I find it interesting that I have seen him 3 weekends in a row. I think that totally has to be a good sign. So, he stops by to get me and of course looks gorgeous as usual. I already know that maybe the 10 beers should be limited to 5.. over 5 hours. But, off to the liquor store we go! A case of Bud Light and a 6 pack of Miller Lite later, we were off to an evening of corn hole, beer and a band. The whole night was exactly what I needed. My attempt to be the DD totally failed for the 2nd weekend in a row- which is really unlike me since before I felt the need to take care of everyone else. So we ended up staying with Fred's old neighbors. Waking up this morning in someone else's house was not how I thought the day would start. But at least we could sleep in for a bit and we stopped to get Dunkin Donuts on the way home. Every time Fred drops me off at my apartment, it's odd. How do you say bye? 2 weekends ago was an awkward hug, last weekend I just hopped out the truck and said "See ya later". Today, I jump out and say "Uhh... Thanks for last night.". Seriously... I said thanks. Nothing like continuing to keep things awkward. At this point, I have no idea what is going on there. Just more dancing around the obvious I think.
That's all for tonight and welcome to my blog about a single girl and all the random shenanigans that go on when you live alone and try to date, when you really suck at dating. My Monday morning will start out with an 8am trip to the dentist. Nothing like starting out your week with some fillings and a numb mouth!
First, lets start with this weekend. Went nothing like I had planned. Surprise surprise. I talked to my mom a few weeks ago about coming up this weekend to apartment hunt. My lease is up at the end of September and I have to tell the leasing office by August 1 if I am staying or leaving. Being a single lady with student loans is tough. Being a single lady with student loans and trying to be independent and live alone is tougher. So, I decided to look for anything in Fishers, Carmel or Noblesville that's cheaper than what I'm paying now. After lots of online research, really I'm getting a pretty good deal where I'm at. Even with rent going up $20 a month in October if I stay. Still decided it was worth looking at a place in downtown Noblesville if mom was coming up. The rent was much cheaper so the prospect of saving $$$ was very exciting. Set the time to see it and mom was on her way up. Then, I get a phone call while running through Kroger after work on Friday. The guy who was supposed to show the apartment to me called to say he thinks he may have already rented the place. Uh awesome.. Glad I called to set an appointment time for you to give it to someone else. He said he would call me 1 hr before the time I was supposed to look at it Saturday to let me know what's going on. At this point I'm not even sure how much I just spent at Kroger and I feel like crying because the last 2 weeks have kicked my butt and I have no back up plan because for once, I didn't think I needed one. Frustration was putting it mildly. So I hurry home and pull up apartmentguide.com (which is really helpful if you are ever looking for an apartment). I find 2 places in Noblesville that have 1 bedrooms that are cheap enough to warrant the pain of a move. Because the price was cheap it also made me a little skeptical so when mom got here I said we should go look at them on a Friday night to see what kind of people live there. I am so glad we did that. Both places were a total bust. Dad would have never let me live there alone and if he did, he would have had to buy me a gun. Not really money saving there. So this weekend was a complete waste when looking for a new place but mom and I got to hang out and shop on Saturday since the guy from the apartment never called back. I'm down to 8 days to decide whether or not to stay where I'm at and have no idea what to do. The thought alone makes me want to have a panic attack... So, I'm choosing not to think about it. :)
Saturday night my friend, who we will call Fred, decided to come up and visit for a party his old neighbors were going to. He sent me a text saying he was coming and would stop by and pick me up on the way to the party. Awesome! After being completely lost on what to do with the apartment situation, I was ready for a beer or 10. For a little background, Fred and I have known each other since college. Each one of us have always been dating someone and the timing for us has just never worked. (There are some other complications with Fred and I, but we will just act like that doesn't exist for now.) Well, since I have been single for years... literally.. And Fred is single, I find it interesting that I have seen him 3 weekends in a row. I think that totally has to be a good sign. So, he stops by to get me and of course looks gorgeous as usual. I already know that maybe the 10 beers should be limited to 5.. over 5 hours. But, off to the liquor store we go! A case of Bud Light and a 6 pack of Miller Lite later, we were off to an evening of corn hole, beer and a band. The whole night was exactly what I needed. My attempt to be the DD totally failed for the 2nd weekend in a row- which is really unlike me since before I felt the need to take care of everyone else. So we ended up staying with Fred's old neighbors. Waking up this morning in someone else's house was not how I thought the day would start. But at least we could sleep in for a bit and we stopped to get Dunkin Donuts on the way home. Every time Fred drops me off at my apartment, it's odd. How do you say bye? 2 weekends ago was an awkward hug, last weekend I just hopped out the truck and said "See ya later". Today, I jump out and say "Uhh... Thanks for last night.". Seriously... I said thanks. Nothing like continuing to keep things awkward. At this point, I have no idea what is going on there. Just more dancing around the obvious I think.
That's all for tonight and welcome to my blog about a single girl and all the random shenanigans that go on when you live alone and try to date, when you really suck at dating. My Monday morning will start out with an 8am trip to the dentist. Nothing like starting out your week with some fillings and a numb mouth!
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